Change Your Bad Habits!

Les19-2cWe Welcome 2015 With Open Arms!

Another year is just about to come to a close in a matter of days. It’s so close; we could even measure it in hours and minutes! Christmas has come and gone and in no time at all New Year’s Eve of 2014 will silently slip into the New Year and 2014 will be a thing of the past – just a memory, nothing more! Each year we face the same old thing…out with the old and in with the new.

Each and every year we all reminisce over the great things that happened and fret over the not-so-great things be it; financial, health or fitness related and even personal relationships.

Change Your Bad Habits…

Did you know that most of the unhappy or less than pleasing situations that occurred over the past 12 months happened simply because of “bad habits”? I would like to help you turn things around and possibly make 2015 your best year ever!! Would you mind I if I shared some info with you that will change your life! Well if so…read on…

You probably guessed that I would discuss “Strategic Action Plans” and “setting dates and times up” describing beginning and ending times to “layout your goals.” Well, actually not at this time and here’s why: the most perfect system of planning and gold-setting will take you nowhere if you are anchored down by a “bad set of habits”.

Habits are funny little creatures and almost become invisible to you over even the shortest amount of time “being practiced”. For example – take what we normally call a “bad driver”, one who fails to use Turn Signal Indicators, or fails to stop for pedestrians in cross walks or even worse…parks in a handicap parking spot illegally or leaving a baby or a pet locked in a Hot vehicle on a Hot day for an extended amount of time (it could cause death). All of these are caused by allowing “Bad Habits” to control your actions.

No matter what form of habit it is: good, bad or indifferent, they are all nothing more than acquired behaviors. We all have them and they come in all shapes, sizes and colors. So for right now, take some time and think about some of your habits. Select 2 or 3 to start with, that you feel have the most negative impact on your goal setting and planning. (Hint) Remember that we all have the same amount of time, 168 hours, in a week. You have to become aware of what is creating your “stumbling blocks”.

  1. Become Aware of Your Habits; when do they occur, what are they, what’s the advantage as well as the disadvantages of that habit. What were the feelings you had before the habit kicked in? Your mind will want to create a “justification” that will encourage want to allow the habit to happen.
  2. Develop Alternate Thoughts; No justifying is allowed. Tell yourself that to reach your goal, you MUST stick with your original PLAN. There are no rewards except success itself. Avoid self-pity as nobody really cares if you had a good day or a bad day! If a stumbling block appears – simply jump over it.
  3. Develop Alternative Behavior; to change a bad habit requires you develop a “competing response”. A behavior that is incompatible with your bad habit. Stick to your guns and realize that this competing response will get easier and easier each time it is used.
  4. Build Good Habits; A good habit is the most effective competing response there is to a bad habit. Don’t worry if it is exactly the right thing to do – JUST DO IT! Be persistent. Remember, while the payoff for good habits is long term, it takes time to reach it. I have found that the best rule is to not try to second guess anything. Just keep on doing it and you’ll soon see the light at the end of the tunnel!
  5. Evaluate the Lapses as you are only Human; Sometimes you’ll slip or error in judgment. If you remember that a lapse does not a relapse make. Stay DETERMINED. Evaluate what caused the lapse and learn from it. You will be stronger next time.

I would really love to hear from you with your feelings concerning Bad Habits and how you feel they get started. Also, how you feel that you can become more productive in 2015 and get more mileage out of your resolutions.

Until next time,

Les

The Dawn Of A New Day…

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When I say that I've had a rough couple of weeks…I do not feel that I'm alone on this! I know just from chatting with so many others that we all experience “Up-Times” and “Down-Times” in our lives.

I've just recently learned from a current motivational program that I've been studying, that the flow of our lives is much the same as the way water flows. Sometimes; fast and sometimes not so fast. What causes the flow to change and what is the reason for the ups and downs in our everyday lives?

Let me begin with a recent quote I found by Stephen Richards, a self-help author as he wrote: “You are essentially who you create yourself to be and all that occurs in your life is the result of your own making.” Read that over a few times and allow that to sink in!

In most all of my writings concerning health and nutrition and improving yourself in any of many ways, you'll always read the words that I use so often…“All that you do begins in your head.” In the bible, it says…”you reap what you sow” and there are so many philosophical quotes such as: “You become what you think about”, “you are what you think” and the list goes on.

This concept is mentioned way too often and in so many places and so many words that surely it cannot be ignored.

Getting back to the first sentence in this post…“I've had a rough couple of weeks”…can be taken quite literally. Each day when I get up it begins with making several entries in my personal Journal including notes on the weather, time I awoke , state of mind, things I've learned and experienced and where I am professionally. I won't get into details – any more than I have. Lately, I've been doing something a bit odd! I thought it would be interesting to look at last year's TODAY -exactly one year ago. Ironically – in my case, It threw me into a tailspin! I did not like what I found!

The point of this post is how you can MOVE YOURSELF FORWARD. So, let me fast forward to what inspired today's post.

As I was cleaning up my desk yesterday morning I came across a scrap of paper with some scribbled notes on it and across the top it said “Loving Yourself”! I do not remember where I got this info, what I may have been listening to or reading or watching but it made a whole lot of sense to me.  I wanted to share those notes with you because…if it's true that “you are or become what you think about” you best be feeling good about yourself and be thinking good thoughts and loving yourself like there is no tomorrow!

Here are the notes as they were transcribed:

  1. Loving Your Self: Stop berating or criticizing yourself. Accept yourself as you are. Believe in yourself as well as believing that you can improve yourself on a continuous basis. Every problem that you encounter; emotional, health-healing, physical, mental can be healed by simply loving yourself. No, this is not an ego thing nor is it a bad trait even though you’ll encounter other people saying things like: “boy, does he ever love himself”, or…”who does he think he is?” “Man, is he ever conceited.” Try this simple experiment on yourself for a few weeks’ worth of days: Stand in front of a mirror, look into the mirror and look deeply into your own eyes and say (out loud) “I Love You”!
  2. Focus: Your focus must be positive! Dis-empowering thoughts – No-No-Never! Focus on “Empowering Thoughts”. Focus on the thought (pretend) that you have already achieved your goal or objective. Remember that the meaning that you give to your goal is generated in your own mind.
  3. Body: Endorphin's, neurotransmitters charge up your physiology. Exercise every day, look positive and maintain a positive air about you. Identify yourself in your posture and continuously condition your mind.

My next couple of posts are going to be focusing on personal motivation and self-determination and I felt that today's post would prove to be a good springboard to that topic.

As always, your thoughts and comments are always welcome and essential to me as the person posting on this blog. In other words…I would really appreciate any discussion and all comments on this topic. Thanks in advance…

Les