Another year is just about to come to a close in a matter of days. It’s so close; we could even measure it in hours and minutes! Christmas has come and gone and in no time at all New Year’s Eve of 2014 will silently slip into the New Year and 2014 will be a thing of the past – just a memory, nothing more! Each year we face the same old thing…out with the old and in with the new.
Each and every year we all reminisce over the great things that happened and fret over the not-so-great things be it; financial, health or fitness related and even personal relationships.
Change Your Bad Habits…
Did you know that most of the unhappy or less than pleasing situations that occurred over the past 12 months happened simply because of “bad habits”? I would like to help you turn things around and possibly make 2015 your best year ever!! Would you mind I if I shared some info with you that will change your life! Well if so…read on…
You probably guessed that I would discuss “Strategic Action Plans” and “setting dates and times up” describing beginning and ending times to “layout your goals.” Well, actually not at this time and here’s why: the most perfect system of planning and gold-setting will take you nowhere if you are anchored down by a “bad set of habits”.
Habits are funny little creatures and almost become invisible to you over even the shortest amount of time “being practiced”. For example – take what we normally call a “bad driver”, one who fails to use Turn Signal Indicators, or fails to stop for pedestrians in cross walks or even worse…parks in a handicap parking spot illegally or leaving a baby or a pet locked in a Hot vehicle on a Hot day for an extended amount of time (it could cause death). All of these are caused by allowing “Bad Habits” to control your actions.
No matter what form of habit it is: good, bad or indifferent, they are all nothing more than acquired behaviors. We all have them and they come in all shapes, sizes and colors. So for right now, take some time and think about some of your habits. Select 2 or 3 to start with, that you feel have the most negative impact on your goal setting and planning. (Hint) Remember that we all have the same amount of time, 168 hours, in a week. You have to become aware of what is creating your “stumbling blocks”.
- Become Aware of Your Habits; when do they occur, what are they, what’s the advantage as well as the disadvantages of that habit. What were the feelings you had before the habit kicked in? Your mind will want to create a “justification” that will encourage want to allow the habit to happen.
- Develop Alternate Thoughts; No justifying is allowed. Tell yourself that to reach your goal, you MUST stick with your original PLAN. There are no rewards except success itself. Avoid self-pity as nobody really cares if you had a good day or a bad day! If a stumbling block appears – simply jump over it.
- Develop Alternative Behavior; to change a bad habit requires you develop a “competing response”. A behavior that is incompatible with your bad habit. Stick to your guns and realize that this competing response will get easier and easier each time it is used.
- Build Good Habits; A good habit is the most effective competing response there is to a bad habit. Don’t worry if it is exactly the right thing to do – JUST DO IT! Be persistent. Remember, while the payoff for good habits is long term, it takes time to reach it. I have found that the best rule is to not try to second guess anything. Just keep on doing it and you’ll soon see the light at the end of the tunnel!
- Evaluate the Lapses as you are only Human; Sometimes you’ll slip or error in judgment. If you remember that a lapse does not a relapse make. Stay DETERMINED. Evaluate what caused the lapse and learn from it. You will be stronger next time.
I would really love to hear from you with your feelings concerning Bad Habits and how you feel they get started. Also, how you feel that you can become more productive in 2015 and get more mileage out of your resolutions.
Until next time,